I keep thinking about this little blog lately and all the things I want to share and, quite frankly, I don’t know where to begin. This year has been such a roller coaster, and it’s only April. APRIL! We are a mere third of the way through 2014.
Instead of making individual posts about everything, I’m just going to go with the bullet point route. If you don’t want to read all this, lord knows I understand. This is primarily for me to have to look back on when I remember this time.
- We were surprised with a pregnancy in early February. (Hello, you all know this. haha.)
- We nixed our Sept. 27 wedding plans since our due date is four days after our wedding date. We currently have no idea when we will get married, other than it will be in 2015. We opted out of a “shotgun wedding”. ;)
- We made the decision to go ahead and move closer to OKC. We started looking for houses immediately after finding out we have a baby on the way. We had planned on doing this in November after the wedding, but I want to be moved and settled before Cordelia gets here.
- We made an offer on one house, one that we considered at the time to be our dream house. The inspection came back and we learned there was up to $20,000 in structural damage…it wouldn’t even pass an inspection to obtain a home loan. We dropped the contract and grudgingly moved on.
- We made an offer on another house, one that I was “eh” about. It was a foreclosure, and to this day we still never heard back from the bank with an accept/deny/counter offer. Whatever.
- We made an offer on what we hope to be our final house recently. (The one I’ve spoken about here.) We had inspections done on Monday, everything came back great…other than the water well. The water was murky brown and smelled like sulfur. We are currently in the process of seeing what our options are for that. If we can come up with a solution for it, we are definitely snagging that house. It’s a dream, minus what I have lovingly dubbed “the poop water”.
- Mark’s schedule is insane and I rarely see him. He leaves on Mondays for class in OKC, travels to Tulsa to intern for Hanson’s studio (3CG) on Tuesdays (he helped record Miley Cyrus and Wayne Coyne last month…crazy), Wednesdays and Thursdays he has class in OKC, he comes home on Thursday afternoons then works 7pm-7am Thursday-Saturday and sleeps until 2 or 3pm each day. After he wakes up on Sunday afternoon, we get a few hours together before I head off to shoots. We only sleep in the same bed on Sunday nights, even though we live together.
- My schedule has also been batshit crazy. I’m trying to keep my head above water with senior shoots and weddings. April knocks me off my feet every year.
- I made the decision to no longer shoot weddings next year, and I’ll be taking September-January off from shoots. Partly to settle into motherhood, partly because I need a break.
- Possibly the biggest curveball we’ve been thrown lately.. My mom recently found out she has stage 2 breast cancer. The last week or so have been spent at doctor appointments, learning about options, and waiting waiting waiting. She’s scheduled for a mastectomy on May 6th and will begin chemo following that. Keep her in your thoughts and prayers.
- My grandpa was also diagnosed with lung cancer in February and is currently undergoing chemo and radiation and living with my mom, and my great uncle was diagnosed with prostate cancer last month. Basically, fuck cancer. I mean really. How do we not have a cure yet?
In light of everything, there is still so much to be thankful for. We have a healthy baby on the way that we are SO excited about, we went through all those crappy house situations and ended up with what we believe to be “our” house with only one issue that IS solvable (the question is cost), Mark is almost done with school and his internship and we’ll have the whole summer and beyond together, my senior season ends next week and I don’t have another wedding until 5/17 so I have time to get caught up and help take care of Mom, I’m able to look forward to a great “maternity leave” with my girl for several months this Fall/Winter, Mom’s cancer was caught early and her doctor has high hopes for a full recovery, my grandpa appears to be responding to chemo beautifully, and my great uncle is undergoing treatments for his cancer and is in good spirits.
I will admit to being a typically pessimistic person and crashing when things go wrong and just generally having a bad attitude, but for whatever reason I’m learning to take things as they come, work out solutions, stay calm, and take baby steps towards the right direction. We are all exhausted…but this is only a season and there are greater things to come.